A little backstory

Let's start with the facts: I'm a woman (which is probably obvious from the title of this blog, but I figured I'd state it for the record) and I'm divorced.  When I was married my husband and I had sex regularly, but our sex life was neither very exciting nor very satisfying.  At least not for me (I won't speak for my ex).  Not that it made much difference because at the time my libido was so low that I was convinced that I just didn't enjoy sex.  I was so incredibly wrong!  It took a few key changes for me to learn the truth - that sex is so much better than I ever imagined!  I think about sex so many times a day you'd think I have the mind of a teenage boy.  So what changed exactly, you ask?

Change #1: I stopped taking birth control pills
It's no secret that hormonal birth control is a blanket mood killer for a lot of women, but not having to ever worry about pregnancy by taking a single pill each day is very appealing.  So appealing that the side effects tend to get swept under the rug - by doctors and patients alike.  I didn't even realize that birth control was suppressing my sexual desire until about two months after I stopped taking it.  But after that it was like my body came out of a prolonged coma and wanted sex NOW.  And lots of it.  It was an amazing feeling.

Change #2: I got a vibrator
My sexual awakening started while I was still married, but I wasn't seeing much of my husband due to conflicting work schedules.  We were rarely home and awake at the same time so as you can imagine I was very sexually frustrated.  Not that I was actually enjoying sex with him that much, but my body wanted it every day and he was my only option at the time.  So I did what any smart woman would do - I got a vibrator.  Masturbation had never been all that enjoyable before, but my eyes were opened to a whole new world of pleasure when that vibrator arrived.  I was so excited to try it and I was rewarded with mind-blowing, toe-curling orgasms more intense than anything I'd ever felt before.  Needless to say, that little battery-operated baby has been my best friend ever since it showed up at my front door.

Change #3: I got a new man
Divorcing my husband was the best thing that could have happened to my sex life.  I didn't know it when I was married, but my husband wasn't good at sex.  Not that I think my sexual satisfaction is completely his responsibility, so let's just say we weren't good together.  Making a change made all the difference.  My next sexual partner made me feel good in ways that I didn't know were possible.  It was amazing.  I'll be going into more details of our adventures in future posts, but for now I'll say that he and I fit together in all the right ways.  And when they say size doesn't matter, ladies, I can unequivocally say that it's true.  It's the fit that really matters!  More on that to come.